My 11-year-old lad recently came home from school proclaiming that he was about to have “The Talk” during his health class at his elementary school. At first I was like, “Hold, up. That’s my job,” but then I realized that “The Talk” they were going to have was not about the birds and the bees and the making of babies, but more about the human anatomy and the differences between boys and girls.
After wiping my brow and exclaiming, “Phew!” I knew that it was still my proper place to have “The Sex Talk” with our youngest lad. In fact, even though my eldest lad went to an all-boys high school, I don’t think he and I actually have sat down and had “The Talk” even though he will be heading off to college this fall. I recently joked to him (yes this is slightly embarrassing) wondering if he was going to call me at 1am in the morning asking for any techniques in un-hooking a bra. He slyly joked to me, that he has that covered. Guess who was now a bright shade or red? Well let’s just say it wasn’t him.
So how is it in this day-in-age can parents properly talk to their children about sex? For me, a great resource that I recently came across was a series of books from the non-profit organization Educate and Empower Kids. The books are arranged by age category, but are all titled, “30 Days of Sex Talks.” The age categories are from three to seven, eight to eleven and 12+. According to this series, “The purpose of this curriculum is to help me (you) as parents establish and grow open and honest communication with your child about sex, intimacy, the dangers of online pornography and your child’s view of him or herself.” Furthermore, “children spend in the US spend an average of 7.5 hours consuming media each day…according to one study, 42% of children had been exposed to pornography in the past year and of those, 67% were exposed to it accidentally.”
I can totally relate to this late point as when our eldest lad was about nine years old, he was listening to a Justin Timberlake song on his mp3 player. The song was titled, “Sexy Ladies” and not knowing what that meant, my lad went to The Google and simply typed in “sexy ladies.” Of course, I didn’t know this, but after he went to bed I came down to the computer and noticed these pornography pop ups and the our browser history filled with adult-orientated websites. As you can imagine, this was not a comfortable experience, but had I had these three books, “30 Days of Sex Talks,” perhaps our conversation might have gone a lot differently than then what occurred and although the final end-result turned out very positive, it just took about three hours longer than we had anticipated.
Our children are very curious about their bodies, their own sexuality and if we as parents have great resources such as “30 Days of Sex Talks,” we can no doubt ask great questions, but more importantly listen to what our children are saying as well as observing. There is nothing to be afraid of when it comes to talking about sex with your children and I believe that education is the key to understanding our own sexuality.
So if you are in the mood for a great read, head on over to Empower and Educate Kids’ site. iIndeed starting today, June 1st, you can also download to your Kindle, but you can pick up any of their three books via Amazon here. Although I received all three books for review purposes, I will be giving all three books away for someone who is also interested in these great resources. I’ll even write a personalized note to you and send it to you for free. In fact, while you are at it, why don’t you buy a set yourself and pay-it-forward by sending a set to someone you think would be interested in a powerful series of books to begin a conversation that we all know we should have, but swe houldn’t be afraid to have.
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